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To be good at something means to be proficient or skilled at it. I struggle with emotions a lot, not in controlling them per se, but in having them to a generous degree and subsequently understanding how they operate (so once having strong ones that I haven't trained to quell or exploit, then I struggle to control those as well). Primarily those are attraction, servitude, openness, and fear.

Now, none of those are really emotions, but they are all soft skills and require emotions to use effectively (attraction and communication require situational awareness (including emotional) and the ability to read another's verbal and non verbal languages). Servitude and openness require trust that the receiver will not exploit my efforts and subsequently waste my time. Under all of these are fear of something, and I'm still not entirely certain of what. Perhaps rejection and failure, perhaps lack of acceptable success to myself (which is ironic that such a fear would keep me from attempting in the first place).

So I think when it comes to the soft skills, I need to focus on self belief and that I know I can do whatever I need to do. I've told myself for a long time that I'm bad with emotions, bad with fashion, and bad at communicating, but those are all skills and are able to be honed. And as my favorite post by Sam Altman states, having "almost too much self belief" is part of the recipe. Now I know that that's in the context of successful business, but I think it's applicable to any personality facet (as are any of the qualities listed there).

Nevertheless, life moves fast, so no matter what point I am at, nothing is ever done. For instance, my uncle is nearing a young death due to leukemia, and my biggest regret is not getting to know his family better, so there's never a good time to start that's better than yesterday.